Love & Bicycling
18“To ride a bicycle properly is very much like a love affair – chiefly it is a matter of faith. Believe you do it, and the thing is done; doubt, and for the life of you, you cannot.” HG Wells, Author & Bicyclist
We dedicate this week to romantic relationships, which bring us joy, purpose, and companionship but which also cause us the greatest consternation during times of conflict. Cycling adds to the dynamics of our relationships, for better or worse: it is time-consuming and can be perceived as self-indulgent, although riding/racing do give benefits to and via community. If you’re a cyclist, even a single cyclist, eventually cycling is an issue that will be addressed in a relationship, perhaps that’s why you’re single? Even a monk would have to account for all that time on the road – away, distinct; separate in cause and passion. Do tandem teams in relationship with one another have more harmony? Not necessarily, neither escapes the other through cycling since having interests apart from your loved one is necessary also. Even relationships with other cyclists have conflict as a result of cycling. Cyclists with other cyclists seem to have as much conflict as a result of cycling as cyclists in relationships with non-cyclists. So while cycling may change or be an additional component in the dynamics of relationships, it is never the true cause of conflict. There’s a lot of talk these days about compatible personality styles for couples, so called perfect matches based on common preferences; but studies show that relational health has little to do either with opposites attracting or with having a lot in common. Rather, what is at the heart of healthy, happy relationships is compassionate, committed love; what the Greeks call agape or unconditional love. How does one find such a love? Well, we don’t fall into fitness, and neither do we fall into this kind of love. We pray for this week’s ride down Lover’s Lane.
Prayer for Relationships
“…if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing…
these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.” 191 Corinthians 13:2, 13
We are thankful that we’re created for profound and pleasurable intimacy. We admit that cycling passion sometimes competes for our aficionado. Teach us to love in a way that is mutual.
Ponder Am I able to be committed for lasting love? Affirm I determine what type of relationship I’ll seek based on my ability to commit. Watch for love to find you when you say what you’ll receive.
18The Wheels of Chance: A Bicycling Idyll by HG Wells published London: Macmillan & Co., Ltd. 1986
19The Bible, New International Version, Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984 International Bible Society