22″I just want a girlfriend.” States Almost Every Espoir Cyclist I’ve Coached
No marriage, no children. This is the dream of some cyclists whose marriages or family responsibilities weigh upon them like too much Valentine candy. Others are longing for a special relationship that can share at least part-time in the life of a cyclist. Grass is always greener? Perhaps, but there is a motivational factor in a romantically happy existence. The chemical effects of being in love are like dark chocolate to the nth degree on the brain: a deeply satisfying experience into the dopamine zone.
You could say I’m the least likely person to write this section or the most. The romantic part of my life has seen sadness and failure, which I partly attribute to my need for growth and understanding of self and men. On the other hand, many a successful new venture has come from the experiences of formerly bankrupt entrepreneurs. Hard things teach valuable lessons to those willing to learn. I believe that areas where we’re meant to be glorious are at times where we experience our greatest challenges, so I still have hope and so should you if you’re mounting up for a solo attempt. The truth is, sometimes no relationship is better than some relationships. Being a single cyclist has many benefits. Beyond playing the field, one can focus on the field as a serious cyclist trying to make it in a highly competitive environment. Freedom to travel and live with limited resources carefree from responsibilities of looking after others financially enables you to live your dreams in cycling. Not every romantic relationship has to be serious so long as both parties understand the level of interest; otherwise, someone may get hurt which may be more distracting and debilitating than being alone. Either way, enjoy some fun times of discovering who you are on and off the bike!
Prayer for Singles
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.”- 1 Corinthians 13:4-5
We are thankful for transitions of solitude. We ask for soul mates to come into our lives at the right time who appreciate our cycling-selves; and for healthy dating or encouraging friendships in the meantime.
Ponder Do I need a soul mate or a playmate? Could I benefit from some time solo? Affirm I can be alone and content. Watch and guard your heart from connections which take away from your purposes.
22Too many names to mention. This is a tough reality for aspiring elite riders who are focused on the time necessary to make it as a pro, not to mention lack of resources and energy to cultivate and keep a relationship. Some of their European counterparts are already married and have strong foundations to support them through this tough transition as young men seeking their way and livelihoods.
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