29″DNF’d at 320 kms. Conditions: pouring rain for 27 straight hours, a high of 10C/50F, howling wind. City and town officials were evacuating the towns we were cycling through, and closing roads because of flooding…I was barely coherent, shivering uncontrollably, and had started throwing up. I decided it was in my best interests to call it quits … especially since the storm showed no signs of letting up.” posted by machka on randoneurs forum
Sometimes abandoning a ride is smarter than continuing. Relationally this may be wise also. No matter how much communication or attempts to resolve problems, overheated hearts must separate at times. I don’t know how many tales of failed love or lost opportunity as a result of the bicycle I’ve heard. Now in cycling’s headlines, we read of separations on an international scale when one perspective doesn’t match another about how to manage cycling’s growth or reform its problems. Calling it quits for a time may be the best way to set up reconciliation. Cool off, regroup, get better conditioned to rejoin the peloton, your special person, or the management of a situation at another time and venue.
DNF is like the Scarlet Letter next to a race result, but it can come with valuable take-aways. It’s a chance to reorder priorities, realize another’s perspective, and recover emotionally so you can think clearly about changes that will lead to smoother involvement. The downside is that whatever issues, weaknesses, or flaws helped create the problem travel with you until you do the tough task of facing them. Calling it quits with a lover, a team, an organization, or a system is the beginning of a new set of circumstances to overcome. Be sure that IF you separate, you have done EVERYTHING you can before this option becomes necessary. Outside of your control is the desire of others to reconcile; but it’s your obligation to attempt to mutually decide that the time, climate, circumstances, and personalities are best lived in the community in a more separate capacity.
“God uses us to persuade men and women to drop their differences and enter into God’s work of making things right between them.” 302 Corinthians 5:19
Prayer for Calling It Quits
We are thankful for an opportunity to bail. We confess this seems simpler than solving relational difficulties. We ask for wisdom to know the difference between when this is the best option for all concerned, or when this is a cop-out for doing the hard work of effective interaction.
Ponder Is stopping better than continuing? Affirm I can choose my pauses and my finishes. Watch for a way to end that involves those affected, if possible. If not, dismount as gracefully as possible.
29Randoneurs: Roll Call, posting by Machka, Copyright 1999 – 2007 www.bikeforums.net
DNF means Did Not Finish.
30The Message, Copyright © 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000, 2001, 2002 by Eugene H. Peterson