55” What do I think about while riding…sex, of course.” Lance Armstrong, Pro Cyclist
We go everywhere this week from nose to nuts. In fact, the more private the subject, the greater is the need for prayer and contemplation. So here we thrust into an enjoyable private pursuit in the context of cycling performance. KISS is my best advice. Keep It Simple Stupid.
This is not so much a sermon on biblical morality, as it is on practicality. There are consequences for sexual intimacy. Romantic relationships don’t last outside of caring, commitment, and communication. Sex complicates the process of forming commitment and building relational skills which will sustain every peak and valley of attraction. Emotional consequences cloud judgment.
For men trying to succeed in cycling, the energy drain pursuing sex can derail a training plan. Pursuing the heart of a woman is complicated enough. You won’t exit her bedroom without a price, even if the sex is free. For women, using sex to attain lasting intimacy is futile. Intimacy is based on trust not touch. For both genders, there is an emotional and physical toll when non-marital sexual experiences become a focus. Where differing intentions and expectations exist, sex is entangling in a negative way. Men and women can feel used and worn out in its pursuit. With staggering statistics on sexually transmitted diseases, protecting one’s health is a big case for abstinence and marital fidelity. There are 56costly consequences like unwanted pregnancies or relational entanglements held hostage by sexual history.
Note that happily married cyclists probably have a competitive advantage. A whole aspect of life is settled, presumably satisfied; committed support is dedicated toward other pursuits, like cycling, another great passion. What to do with all that training or racing-induced testosterone? Put it into the bike hopeful the right lover who cares about you (and therefore your cycling) will come at the right time.
Prayer for Sexuality
“Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband. God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex.” 57Hebrews 13:4
We are thankful for life’s pleasures. We confess we misuse sex for selfish release or manipulate it for relationship. We pray for sacred choices.
Ponder Do I believe sex is purely pleasurable, free of consequences? Affirm I am responsible with my body and another’s emotions. Watch your urges and think through actions.
55“Talking Cycling: Today Bill Talks With Lance,” December 15, 1997 www.cyclingnews.com
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Thanks to Jeff Williams of Grace & Truth Relationship Education for editorial help with this section. www.graceandtruthrelationship.com
56U.S. Government funds abstinence education because of its financial benefits due to tremendous outlays from the welfare system. A recent study showed $112 billion/year cost to U.S. taxpayers related to divorce and unwed childbearing. “The Taxpayer Costs of Divorce and Unwed Childbearing: First-Ever Estimates for the Nation and All Fifty States,” by Benjamin Scafidi, Principal Investigator for Institute of American Values www.americanvalues.org
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