Cycling & Discretion
5“I am the anti-hero. Listen to what I say; and do not do what I did in my career. I made foolish choices. I am the anti-example, the anti-hero: do what I didn’t to succeed.” Matthew Koschara, Coach and former Pro
Matt describes wasted opportunity and his penchant in the past for choosing what felt or seemed good over what was best. His self-confessed volatile judgment led to team conflict, firings, foolish behavior, and ultimately lack of focus. Long after racing stopped, he struggles with these memories. Matt doesn’t want to lead riders in his care into a fool’s paradise of false hope that any choice, even one that makes you happy at the time, leads to a positive outcome. 6There is a way that seems right but the end leads to destruction. Every choice that leads to regret can undergo a course correction, but there may be consequences to pay. So how do you learn how to choose wisely?
1. Base a decision on integrity and morality using a spiritual standard.
2. Read circumstances. Be honest about what’s before you and what’s not. Is reality bearing evidence to guide a sound choice?
3. Acknowledge that you may not know what you don’t know. Seek wise counsel in a trusted and discreet advisor. Process the advantages and disadvantages of critical decisions. Enlist the support of a caring listener to privately process emotion.
4. Provision is a reality check. Are there resources for implementation?
5. Seek the peaceful solution. Sometimes the choice which brings you the most peace may involve a longer-term view, a sacrifice in hopes of future rewards, delayed gratification, resolving a difficult problem or conflict, swallowing pride. So using peace as a means to know a right way may involve hard things in its pursuit. If in doubt, wait for more information until peace comes.
Every once in a while a seventh element to guide occurs miraculously, unexpected and beyond imagination. Discerning right from wrong involves trial and error and eyes-wide-open faith.
Prayer for Discretion & Discernment
“…abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight,
so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless.” 7Philippians 1:9-10
We are thankful for standards of excellence. We confess our perception is sometimes blinded by unholy drives. We ask for guidance and good sense for right and wrong.
Ponder Is it even possible to see every nuance of every possibility to know for certain that it’s the right way? Affirm I think through my choices. Watch for information, pursue peace, wait if necessary, pray.
5Conversations with Matt Koschara and my observations watching him work with riders in a team setting. Matt learned better judgment the hard way – by reaping the consequences of bad choices. He expressed regret not staying focused on the Best versus the Good and sometimes even choosing the Bad.
6Proverbs 14:12, Holy Bible, King James Version public domain
7The Bible, New International Version, Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984 by International Bible Society